The Unhealthy Pattern Checklist

Click each one that's true for you

• You say yes when your body is already saying no, and the gap between the two doesn't register until later.
• The second he texts, you stop whatever you're doing, already halfway into how you'll respond.
• He offers to meet up, and you rearrange your entire day around it, again.
• You delete a message if he hasn't read it fast enough, a small punishment: he doesn't deserve to read it anymore.
• The second you feel like he doesn't have enough time for you, you delete the conversation and block his number, before you've even decided that's really what you want.
• You know exactly where your line is, and you've crossed it anyway, more than once, because saying no out loud felt like the harder option.
• You complain about him to everyone you know, and keep showing up anyway.
• You've told him, out loud, that he's not good enough for you, and shown up the next time he called anyway.
• You're the easy one, the understanding one, the low-maintenance one, and you built that reputation by quietly needing less than you actually do.
• You confuse being needed with being loved, and you can't always tell the difference from inside it.
• You can list what he needs from you faster than you can list what you need.
• You keep choosing a different person and landing in the same relationship, and some part of you already saw it coming.